There are many philosophies to what contributes to our development.  In the psychological world it is mostly focused on the internal life...

One area of relationships that I tend to help clients pay attention to is their own self in the relationship. We can often become quite...

Buddhism is founded upon what Siddhartha Gautama realized were the four noble truths of human existence.  I want to take those four noble...

One could say that a huge reason people seek therapy or struggle in life is due to some aspect of shame. Shame is a sense that something...

Although there are many great aspects to psychology and psychotherapy, one pitfall is that sometimes we can get too focused on problem...

Last week I wrote about change and how we need to take action in order to change.  Sometimes change is also in how we see the world,...

One of my favorite authors, Irvin Yalom, MD, is a psychotherapist who has written a book entitled Existential Psychotherapy. I’m sure I...

Anxiety is a complicated mental, emotional, and physical human experience.  There is not usually one answer or cause to one’s experience...

So often in counselling/psychotherapy/social work and many self-help books, the focus is on “fixing” pathology. The focus is on...

In a brief addendum to my last post on Addiction is Good For you, I would like to share a quote from Rollo May (1977) in his book, The...

I’ve written before on the idea that addiction can give a person reason to look more deeply into his/her life, resolving issues, hurts,...

Hope doesn’t seem to be a word we use much anymore – at least I haven’t used it much and I don’t hear others using it. I hear my...

The more I work with the phenomenon of addiction, the more fascinating it becomes as an extremely dynamic coping strategy – dynamic in...

“I don’t love you anymore,” is a phrase that gets thrown around either in the middle of a deteriorating relationship or at the end. One...

I am struck by the impact of the unseen in our lives as human beings. I spend most of my time with clients talking about aspects of...

One thing the Eastern religions have given us in the West is a perspective that we are not our emotions, that we are the part that can...

Acceptance can be a very powerful approach or mindset to deal with suffering. It is not always about self-acceptance but overall...

An area of our lives that does not always get a lot of attention in the realms of psychology and spirituality is that of place. There...

I work with couples that are trying to mend their relationships after or during the impact of an addiction. There is a typical dance...

This week I wanted to share a book that can be quite helpful to those struggling to overcome addictions or to manage their more drastic...